Ups and Downs of Solo Traveling

Hey you guys!

Solo traveling is sure fun! Though I know some people don’t like it and prefer to do it with friends/family. Which is perfectly fine! I have posted a post about solo traveling before (insert link here), do check it out if you are still thinking whether you should do it or not!

Every type of traveling, of course, has their own ups and downs. So what are the ups and downs for solo traveling? Oh yea, I’m talking about this based on my experience so some people might agree or have the same experience as me and some might don’t.

There is, somehow, this illusion of traveling solo being sooo dreamy

Whenever I tell people that I went to this or that place alone, their reaction always “wow how can you do that?” “Oh I always want to try it” etc etc. Some are somehow worried, some are finding this exciting. There is, somehow, this illusion of traveling solo being sooo dreamy. But, of course it’s not always full of ups right? It’s not always as sweet or dreamy as it sounds.

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So this is my first destination back in Australia. I arrived at Aussie at 1.30pm ish and waited for shuttle for 30-45 minutes to go to my hostel. Since I got tired waiting, I decided to take the train there and apparently my hostel was only couple of meters from Kings Cross Station. At first I wanted to take a rest, you know being all "tired" and "jet lag" (I didn't get any of those hence the quotation mark). After I took a shower, I decided to actually go to this famous Bondi Beach. I could take the train to Bondi Junction Station but hey, when I checked Google Maps, I thought "Ah it's only 6.4 km from here. I'm gonna walk there. Easy" Being impulsive and stupid as that's what I am, I decided to walk there with only 30% of phone battery, a camera and wallet. Oh, and a pair of sandals. Left the hostel. Walked there. Got lost. Didn't expect those uphills roads. Forced myself to actually walk there though I could take the bus instead. And I was completely alone. So what did I do? Laughed on my stupidity and kept walking.⠀ ⠀ Moral of the story? Don't be stupid, Kem (heck mate, I was being stupid everyday when I was in Australia hahaha).⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ 📷: Fujifilm XA-2⠀ ⠀ #Australia #NewSouthWales #Sydney #BondiBeach #Sunset #Beach #Sky #Skyscape #Landscape #Travel #Fujifilm #FujifilmXA2 #terfujilah #fuji_id #SeeAustralia #visitAustralia #Wow_Australia2018 #ig_discover_australia #ilovesydney #visitAustralia #travelphotography #photoshop #lightroom #instatravel #ig_sydney #sydney_insta #unlimitedsunset #instabeach #sydneybeaches #iloveaustralia

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Bondi Beach, Australia

So let me tell you the truths about traveling alone…

It’s not because I want to do it all the time, but because I need to!

“I’m free next week” “But I’m not! How about this week? That would be cool” “But I have errands to do this week”

Sounds familiar? Face it guys. When you are going to travel with other people, for example your friend, you have to match your and your friend’s schedule or budget. And even your traveling style. Some people like to shop during traveling some dont, some like the city better and some dont. Right? For me, i find it hard to find someone who has the same style as me.

It’s not like I want to be alone guys, I just dont want to wait for someone to actually go and do something that I want. It feels better when you go to somewhere unfamiliar to you and you have a companion no? But again, do I want to wait for someone to travel and wait for God knows how long?

Bruno Mars Concert

But, it can be scary…

Of course it’s scary to be alone in a place that you are not familiar with. It can be intimidating to walk alone here and there in a new place, especially if we cant speak the language. You might think what if A what if B and so on. But hey! It’s okay! Just keep calm it’s mostly just you overthink things. I always try to keep calm and think things throughly and just go with it hehe. I just need to take my first step and the unfamiliarity will develop into sense of familiarity bit by bit

And also liberating at the same time!

To be honest guys, whenever I want to go somewhere alone i always have this insecure feeling. Just like what I said before, traveling solo can be scary. But right after I take my first step, i feel so proud of myself. Like, hey! See you can do it!

However, sometimes you feel like there’s no one to share your incredible experience

I walked for hours to Bondi Beach, Australia right after I arrived there. With only 30% phone battery and no apps to tell me which public transport should I take. The maps on my phone kept showing the wrong route so I had to walked for a long time. For me, it’s an unforgettable experience and a good lesson learnt as well. But hey, if there was someone with me during that time, we could share that experience together and laugh it when we remember the story, no? But because I was alone, I have no one to share it though I can tell other people the story it feels different.

But… It is soooo easy to plan everything (or not to plan anything!)

Well, you are free to plan anything you want! If you wanna visit certain place or landmark OR if you dont wanna visit it. It is all up to you! You wanna go where your feet is taking you? Consider it as done! See? It’s making everything simple to plan or not to plan, to go or not to go. Everything is all up to you 😀 You could go to wherever you want!

Though, you may, sometimes, worry about your safety or feel self-conscious

When I’m alone at the restaurant or even just strolling around alone, sometimes I get self-conscious and overthink things then get worried about my own safety. What if my wallet got stollen, what if this happen what if that happen. Oh so many what ifs guys. But again, sometimes it’s just your mind trying to mess you up hahaha. Just keep calm and stay vigilant 🙂

You could get to know yourself better and even train yourself when you are in trouble

For me, it’s easier to get to know myself better when I am alone. Because you get to know and to think about yourself more thoroughly without any intervention from other party. After traveling alone couple of times, I realize that I am rather clumsy and dont pay attention much to my personal belongings. Which is a dangerous thing no? I dropped my phone back in Australia (luckily the girls were kind enough to look for the owner phew), I lost my wallet back in Northern Ireland because I didnt pay attention to my bag (you could check my post on travel safety here) aaaand so on. Traveling solo also train me to stay calm when I am facing difficulties. I mean guys, I was basically alone there and barely know anyone except those that I just met hahaha

London, United Kingdom. Strolling around the city on my second week in the UK

Well, on the other hand, you could feel a bit lonely sometimes

When you’re traveling solo, it may make you feel lonely. Eating alone, strolling the city alone *all by myself playing in the background*

All byyyy myseeeellff, dont wanna be all by myseeeelf anymoreee

And sometimes, it’s hard to meet someone. No matter how hard you try somehow you just cant click with anyone somehow

But the truth is, you are never really alone

Yea it may be hard to meet someone sometimes, but you could always meet other people in other places no? Maybe you cant click with anyone right away, but you are never really alone 😀 I dont always make friends in every place that I have visited. If I dont make new friend in this place, then I could always make a new friend in other place (I’m just a happy go lucky kind of person I guess hahaha)

So, is solo traveling worth it? Of course it is! Leave all your fears and insecurities behind. Dont wait for someone if you wanna do something. Just trust yourself but always be mindful and careful! It will be worth it! You could try it once, it does not have to be abroad or somewhere far far away. Then see if you like it, if it’s not your style then of course it is okay too! Just like what I said in my previous post here, everyone has their own traveling style 😀

Cheers,

Kemmy

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